Hello my lovely blogfam! Today’s video is my Christmas gift to you. It is a “12 days of Christmas” Affirmation track; meant to be listened to from December 25th to January 6th. (Which happen to be the official 12 days of Christmas). This affirmation track {read more}
Hello my dear blogfam! Happy WINTER Solstice! I am thankful for each of everyone of you. The past few months have been a whirlwind. Including, lots of travel (both for fun and professionally). Today’s video is all about my most EXTREME beauty purchase. This purchase {read more}
Thankfully, because of my day job, I have access to a professional coach. Realizing this is not a benefit many folks have, I decided to write about a recent experience. And my resulting realization; as I think it is very relatable. This particular session was a daunting one in my mind. Knowing I had a big, life-changing, potentially disappointing decision to make, I went into the session prepared; wanting of course to get the most out of the 45 minutes. Not only did I list out the specific discussion points, I also drew a picture for myself.
Throughout the coaching session, I found myself saying the words, “internal conflict” at least 3 times. The way I saw it, two sides of myself, two ‘endings’ of my “choose your own adventure” were at odds with one another. As my coach talked me through things, a realization came over me. I was not having any internal conflict. Rather, a misunderstanding in my thought process had come about.
This misunderstanding was mostly related to the limiting belief that a choice even had to be made. My coach reassured me that not only were my ‘endings’ not completely apart from one another, but that they could in fact exist with the same outcome.
My gratitude for this discussion will spill far into my future, and it is a discussion I will most likely refer back to often. (Don’t worry I took notes).
This leads us to today’s post about pursing understanding.
Not always does a conflict have to be between two different people. Often our internal conflicts are a greater cause to stress. It is often said that most conflict stems from misunderstanding. Typically, we think of this when two people are in conflict with one another. When seeking to understand another, we try to be humble, and use the two ears one mouth advice and do our best not to be emotional.
However, what happens when this misunderstanding is bubbling up within our own mind? I suppose we could sit down in front of a mirror and talk it out … we can always talk aloud to a friend or a professional coach (like I did). But what if, we turned inward and sought understanding from within first.
After all, we are closest to knowing what experiences have shaped us, and what we are actually thinking. Maybe it is time now to seek understanding on WHY those experiences shaped us and WHY we have the thoughts we have. If we start to understand those why’s within ourselves, we can have our own ‘ah-ha’ moments. This process can illuminate many of the decisions we’ve made, and how we got as far down the current path as we are.
But also, this process can help us to start and reshape or reframe our internal responses and decision making for the future.
So, today, I challenge you to seek to understand yourself better. Text yourself the sweaty armpits, “we need to talk” text. Give yourself the chance to get to know yourself a little better. And yes, I totally understand if it feels scary to want to get to know yourself better, but it is worth it… believe me.
1. At the top of a paper or ‘notes’ section of your phone… Write something you’ve been mulling over, or anxious about.
2. Describe what you are feeling about the situation in a few words.
3. Write down some reasons why you may be feeling this way.
4. Follow this by writing doing the outcome you’d like in the situation, perhaps not specifically; but how you want to feel when it is resolved.
5. Reframe the situation from a positive lens.
If you so choose, let me know how this went for you in the comments below!
A walk through Ecclesiastes, one of the most out of place books of the Bible. And how regardless of one’s faith or belief, it can apply to your life.
Hello everyone, thank you for being here; and welcome to a new affirmation track, using “You Are” Affirmations instead of “I am” Affirmations. This is meant to be listened to daily in the morning. You can either listen to it in the background, or repeat {read more}
Hello readers! Today’s post, as you can see from the title is, “What is one thing you wish you had more of?”. That’s right, we aren’t talking about materialistic things here, although if some – thing – came to mind, it could be of use for this exercise. For example, if your immediate response was, “time”; perhaps your – thing – is actually freedom. Another example is money: if money came to mind, perhaps your – thing – is financial security.
If you haven’t already you can start off this post by going to the difficult person test. This could inspire some thoughts on where you’d like to improve.
Instead, what this question dares to ask is more so in terms of character traits. As are most of the posts on my blog, we want to go inward and do some self-reflection. That being said, take a few minutes to truly think, what character trait would do you wish you had more of?
Perhaps courage, or strength come to mind. Maybe tenacity or resilience? Empathy or compassion? How about adventurous or curiosity. Or maybe you are working on calming your anger and you’d like more patience or perspective?
As you go about your day today, or tomorrow if you are reading this late. Deliberately put the character trait you wish you had more of in the forefront of your mind. Act on it today and see how it feels. Think of it like a new accessory and use it as part of your outfit today.
At the end of the day reflect on how it felt to ‘become’ more of that character trait. Let us know in the comments below how it felt!
Today’s post is a gift giving guide! These are all things I would personally love to receive for Christmas, birthday or any special occasion! These gifts lean toward the feminine side of things, but most can be for anyone. Especially your girlfriend, wife, or partner. {read more}
As I write my blogs, I tend to do research along side writing. Often, asking questions to the internet before I finish thinking through my own perspective. This leads to the discovery of some great gems! Today’s gem is the, “What is your driving force?” {read more}
This morning as I was getting ready for the day, I of course was thinking of you, BlogFam. Typically, my ideas for this blog come while doing something repetitive and necessary, such as getting ready for the day! During these times, my thoughts go from, ‘what is on my list to do today’, to ‘who am I going to see today’ all the way to this mornings thought. This morning I randomly started thinking about the things I was taught, that I wish I had never believed.
Obviously, this could go in many different directions. One day, I will have a sit down with you all; most likely on my YouTube Channel, to discuss some of the more serious topics. (Such as, religion versus faith. One day needs to come on out). Today, however, I want to speak on something that is often said. Yes, something that isn’t unique to my specific experience. But something, I’m guessing most of you hear still on a regular basis. And that is:
Be careful what you ask for.
My experience with this phrase. I remember being told this in a very condescending way. In a way that was meant to discourage me from dreaming big. The person that told me this over and over again was trying to ensure I would hold myself back, and wouldn’t go after what I wanted in life. They were deliberately communicating that I wasn’t ready for what I was asking for.
Sadly, I believed this for too long. Instead of being confident about going toward my dreams, or even sticking up for myself in crappy situations. I would shy away, thinking I wasn’t worthy or ready of whatever my dream, or need was. Or hesitate in my decision making and action steps toward something.
UGH! Even writing this it gives me bad feelings. I almost wanted to figure out a way to not write it but to get the point across. Ha! From my perspective, I think this is one of the most negative things you can say to someone. It not only puts the person down, but it also indicates that the person speaking it has zero faith or trust in the individual they are speaking it to.
Imagine for a second you divulge one of your hopes and dreams, big or small. It could be something a small as hoping the cafeteria where you work is serving a particular food. Or it could be a sweet yet significant something like you hope your crush asks you on a date (finally!). Furthermore, it could be something as big as hoping you get into the PhD program you’ve dreamt of entering for years.
No matter what it is, if you decide to speak it out loud, you are putting a piece of yourself out there. Whenever someone opens up in this way, it is an amazing moment for those around them to provide encouragement, and to speak life into their hopes an dreams!
Imagine the type of person who listens to the dream, big, significant, meaningful to that individual, small, whatever it is and stops and encourages the individual. Perhaps, even gives them a hug or a happy high five. Or even a brief and sincere “let me know what happens”.
Now imagine the other type of person, most likely barely listening who replies with a, “Be careful what you ask for.” Gosh, I don’t know how this makes you feel reader. But for me, it takes the wind out of me. I picture someone like Cruella De Vil, smoking a cigarette; stomping on hopes and dreams.
Welp, it is time to finally throw this advice in the trash once and for all.
You might ask, well Rose that is all well and good but what do I replace this with?! My answer is to: GET READY FOR YOUR HOPES AND DREAMS. Know that what you ask for is VALID, you are READY for it, and you are WORTHY of whatever it is you need or want!
Have so much belief that what it is you want is going to happen that it is inevitable. And therefore, you MUST get ready for whatever it is you have been wanting!
Secondly, TRUST yourself enough to believe that what you are ‘asking for’ is what you truly want. If you are uncertain, broaden your thoughts or do more research until you can refine your hopes and dreams and make an educated decision on what it is you truly want.
If there happens to be a person in your life who tends to be discouraging, hopeless or puts you down. Distance yourself. Have enough respect for yourself to put space between the two of you. And last, my recommendation would be to keep your inner most hopes and dreams to yourself. That is at least until you’ve matured them enough inside that nothing could take away your confidence.
Therefore today, let me provide encouragement for you. Today take an action TOWARD your hopes and dreams. Yes, take action on what you are asking for. Maybe it is just that: ASKING. Ask for the raise, ask for the promotion, ask for the date. Or perhaps it is taking an action such as applying for the job, the PhD program or updating your resume. Another action I typically take when getting ready for my next step is selecting an outfit. No matter what it is, take a step today toward what you want. At the very least, make a list of what it is you want.
There is a good chance you’ve heard this lesson previously, but it is one I come back to often and wanted to be sure to share. The late, Dr. Wayne Dyer is known for asking the question, “When an orange is squeezed, what comes out?” {read more}